doing it for the girls.

I had all intentions of writing about the Bantam Draft today, which is really important for  the Chiefs in terms of building and adding new talent. But as far as I am concerned, I have more pressing matters to address.

Let’s knock off this slagging on hockey players ok? More specifically, doing it in a manner that means taking a dig at women. Allow me to illustrate, calling the Sedin Twins the Sedin Sisters. Referring to Sidney Crosby as Cindy. Criticizing players by saying they are being a pussy or bitching out. I refuse to put up with this. It’s not cute. I get that hockey is aggressive blah blah blah, trash talk blah blah. But come on now, be clever! Say something witty, it will win you more phone numbers than being an un-evolved lunkhead. I am saying this for your benefit. Join me in modern society. It’s a wonderful place and we have cable internet and so many PopTart flavors.

It’s an insult to how amazing women are. You want to say a player is fighting like a girl? Have you seen an honest to god chick fight and not the porno pillow fight variety? Yeah it’s scary. Three words: Lee Press Ons. Us ladies have enough to deal with, such as “am I a harlot for liking tank tops and lower necklines?” “am I betraying my gender by listening to Lil Kim?” We don’t need dudes mouthing off with a “these broads amirite?!” Hugh Hefner attitude. And do not get me started on the war brides of the Girls Next Door…

And before you think I am some feminazi boner killer, I’d inform you I am quite the modern gal. I see no issue with shaving my legs on the regular and calling myself a feminist. I am proud of what I can do on my own. Something my grandmother’s generation isn’t exactly used to. Think of your amazing mothers and sisters and the shit they put up with. You want to be that guy? Man up, moose.

I absolutely love and adore hockey. I am protective of it. I understand the complexity of fighting and politics of fighting. I supremely dislike the presence and the idea of ice girls in hockey, but I get the dollar signs involved. I adore the camaraderie of the rink. The seeing the regulars and asking how they are. My arena feels like home home even though the rosters are prone to numerous shake ups every season. I like wearing a hoodie and jersey for the bulk of the year and fishing out programs and ticket stubs out of the bottom of my enormous purse.

Is my asking you to consider your mouth so much?

So the next time you think about hating on another player, think about your words and would you say it to any of these dames;

I didn’t think you would.

38 thoughts on “doing it for the girls.

  1. Amen. (And I have actually been writing about Buffy all day, funny story.) Though may I add I am perpetually amazed by how many announcers call Crosby Cindy over and over again during the game. Perhaps they are drinking as much as I am?

    All of my hockey fan guy friends are scared of how insane the female fans they know get in the heat of the moment. They say we scream at the tv much louder. Cool.

    • Ditto, without the majored-in-feminism-in-the-law part.

      The homophobic stuff should stop too.

      I guess this means we can’t call him “cammy ward,” huh? oh well, we’ll figure something out.

      • I have never seen a problem with calling Cam Cammy since I do believe his teammates do it. If he was being called Christina Ward, then I’d have an issue.

  2. Great post Wrap. When the Avery situation blew up in December, I was amazed by the hypocrisy of the league, media and many of the fans – who seem to revel in misogynistic and homophobic slurs – rushing to condemn him. I hope this post makes some people think about the words they use. Again, great stuff.

  3. I was all set to agree with you. After all there’s no point calling Sidney “Cindy” because Sidney is a girl’s name as well. Then I saw the post by Chris

    “This post is male-feminist-who-went-to-hippy-college-and-majored-in-feminism-in-the-law approved”

    I can’t possibly agree with that.

  4. Good call. It’s interesting that girls don’t tend to call eachother “dicks”, ect. no, it’s always whores, bitches. It’s not a two way street. And I agree. Could those tough hockey boys handle a cat fight?

  5. haha My brother just asked me the other day why there are so many lady hockey bloggers. Cause we rock!

  6. Believe I’ll be bookmarking this post and referring to it frequently, yes I will. Nicely done. (And so succinct, I’m jealous!).

    Would extend this to rec hockey trash-talk if I could: Something about hearing such patently unfunny trash talk from a grown man who’s paying to dress up and play rec hockey at 11:30 p.m. just sounds … pathetic.

    Now about these multiple pop-tart flavors. I really must get out more!

  7. Excellent post. As a POHA (Penis-Owning Human American), I heartily endorse all you say here.

    I really hate anyone who calls Sidney Crosby (who I actually really dislike) Cindy, or the Sedin Twins the Sedin Sisters. Hate.

  8. I was wondering when you were going to post this and your thoughts about feminizing athletes as a derogatory term. Admittedly, I have been guilty of using the aforementioned slang word for kitty cat when I’ve played competitive sports or got into a major testosterone disagreement with someone in the past. I like to think it wasn’t often, but nevertheless, I am not innocent or naive to the all too frequent use of these terms in sports, or otherwise. As you know, this isn’t a hockey epidemic. This permeates all sports at every level. I’m certainly not going to defend or condone this behaviour, but I do understand how deep and ingrained this has gone in sports. Sports publicly recognizing the presence of females is a modern occurrence. Sports was and in many ways still is a male oriented and dominated area. Fairly or not, sports has been used as a rite of passage, an identification, many times a tool/resource for gender role classification. All the traits that people look up to and worship in our best athletes remain the same throughout the years: hard-working, talented, strong, courageous, impervious to pain, overcoming some sort of adversity. Along those lines, masculinity has been tied to these “ideal” traits.

    Sports is a convenient, easily accessible area in life where people can grow up, emulating many athletes and pointing out, “That’s what a man should be.” It’s likely the reason why we disdain and deride athletes that are perceived to be lazy, weak, shies away from adversity or risk, and complains. They’re all traits people don’t want to be associated with athletes because we hold them to ridiculously high standards. Rightly or wrongly, as we use athletes as role models, it’s always the extreme – be the hard-working, salt of the earth third line captains and not those unmotivated floaters who aren’t utilizing all their talents. When we move into the realm of extremes, we “cheat” with our language, too. Wimp, weak, scared, etc. all get melded into singular words either for convenience or maximum effect. Has some of those terms unfairly and inaccurately been used to describe women? Yes. But the connotations to those words aren’t strictly for the purposes of degrading women and automatically thinking men are superior to women (of course, there are sadly many exceptions to my generalization), but rather, identifying what types of people, specifically, males that we want to ultimately hold up to our imaginary pedestal of the so-called perfect man.

    Until the onset of feminism, females were often not seen in the same light. And many, males and females, are still coming to grips, I think, when they see great female athletes matching and often surpassing standards originally set out for men only. Unfortunately, it’s going to take time to change a culture that’s so used to using sports as a metaphor for the best qualities of the male gender. But most definitely hold people to the highest standards. It’s the only way we can change.

      • Ah, I was worried about the length of my comment when I was writing it and in turn, upstaging your post and your sentiments behind it. Sorry about that, babe. Perhaps, I should try and make a macaroni collage of Sean Avery for you to show my original love for your post.

  9. I’m in love with this post and your point of view! As a fellow lover of the sport, the rink, the league (particularly whl as well – just the enemy team) and a card-carrying member of the National Organization for Women, I applaud you for speaking your mind and doing so in a way that doesn’t degrade ANYONE, just informs all that archaic thinking isn’t humorous.

    Kudos!

  10. not much left to be said, since BK stole everything I would have commented on. But I will anyways.
    I have often used said derogatory words without even thinking about their true meaning beyond the face value in which I use them (being a wimp etc) I also used to have the same issue with the word ‘gay’ as in, if something was stupid it was gay. Language habits are a hard thing to break and it is through realizations and wake up calls like your post that people like me, who mean no harm but are conditioned to say these things, but mean no harm by them, learn we have to change our patterns of speech.

    Bravo again

  11. great post, and I will admit I do use “pussy” a lot. But; I have always been about non-partisanship and regularly refer to disappointing players as “lazy cock” and so on.

  12. Shit, I missed that one. Great great post, bravo! I’m completely with you on that one. (But then again, I’m a soft European, and I probably contribute to the pansification of hockey, so take my opinion with a grain of salt)

  13. Females like Buffy are powerful and strong and can kick ass.I see lots of strong females more today than before they even play football now they beat guys in wrestling some have beat up guys in boxing some are real strong martial artists and bodybuilders there are guys that are weak sissies compared to some of these females.I know there are some females that could kill me so in this day and age a guy has a good reason to be scared since a guy doesnt know who the strong tough ones are and that they are capable of breaking a guys body in two or snapping his neck like a twig.I have saw 13 year old girls like gymnasts with more muscles than grown men.

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